Adult Skills: A Primer for Those in Recovery

Environmental Skills

_____Make your bed

_____Put clothing and clutter away to create an orderly living space

_____Wash the dishes by hand; Wash dishes in a dishwasher

_____Wash clothes by hand and dry in the sun or wash and dry clothes in a washer and dryer

_____Clean bathroom and kitchen sinks and tubs; clean to prevent rust and mildew

_____Clean shades, walls, furniture, shelves, bookcases, and other environmental surfaces

_____Vacuum a carpet

_____Sweep, mop and wax a tile floor; clean a wood floor

_____Remove garbage and trash; recycle renewable items

_____Mow the lawn and do basic weeding and soil preparation for a garden; water plants

_____Clean appliances: refrigerator, stove, and dishwasher

_____Shut off the gas and electricity during an emergency (e.g., earthquake, flood or fire); operate flashlights, lanterns, or kerosene equipment

_____Set up camping equipment; assemble games and sports playing areas; operate a barbecue or grill

_____Do simple electrical repairs: replace a light, remove a switch cover, replace a fuse, or turn on a circuit breaker switch

_____Do simple plumbing repairs: replace a washer, turn off water at a valve, and replace gaskets or floaters in a toilet

_____Do simple carpentry tasks: hang a picture, replace a lock or hinge, or replace worn replace molding or weather stripping

_____Assemble a piece of furniture according to directions

_____Do basic installation and set up of television sets, compact disks, stereos, computers and other electronic equipment; operate that equipment according to directions

_____Wash and wax a car; do basic car maintenance: replace lights, battery, oil, water, windshield fluid and wipers, and transmission fluid

_____Drive a car; drive a stick shift automobile

_____Read a map; find directions to a destination using the Internet

_____Make a grocery list and locate these items in a store

_____Do basic cooking and shopping for food and household items

Financial Life Skills

_____Do a transaction with a business (buy something)

_____Return that item with a receipt

_____Mail something with the right postage

_____Purchase a bus pass

_____Sign a contract obligating you to pay for something over a series of months

_____Make regular payments for an item over time and pay it off

_____Open a checking account

_____Open a savings account

_____Operate a calculator or ten key adding machine; balance a check book

_____Take out a personal loan

_____Obtain credit (get a credit card or line of credit from a bank)

_____Invest your money for retirement or future goals (e.g., IRA, certificate of deposit, stocks or bonds)

_____Make a monthly budget and keep it; keep track of your debts and monthly payments

_____Buy a car

_____Maintain a car and make car payments

_____Rent or lease an apartment

_____Turn on utilities for that apartment (phone, lights, or gas)

_____Purchase items to live in that apartment like a bed, bedding, clothing, furniture, kitchen utensils, lamps, cleaning supplies, etc.)

_____Buy a house

_____Purchase items to live in that house (bed, bedding, clothing, furniture, kitchen utensils, lamps, cleaning supplies, etc.)

_____Make mortgage and insurance payments

_____Buy life and health insurance for yourself and your family

_____Pay taxes

_____Hire an accountant

_____Hire an investment professional (financial planner, or a stock broker)

_____Hire an attorney

_____File legal paperwork with a court clerk

_____Sue someone in court

_____Make a will to protect your family when you die

_____Make a business plan

_____Raise funds to start a business

_____Start your own business

_____Manage your own business

_____Hire and fire employees

_____File taxes for that business

_____Start a corporation

_____Manage a corporation

_____File regular reports and taxes required for that corporation

Social/Civic Skills

_____Show courtesy and politeness (e.g., saying please and thank you, talking with socially appropriate language, being polite and using good manners)

_____Being well groomed and having an appropriate wardrobe for casual, formal and business use

_____Offer condolences and get well wishes, remembering someone’ birthday

_____Apologize to someone

_____Accepting congratulations and praise from other people

_____Graciously accept a gift

_____Deal with disappointment or frustration without having a tantrum, cursing, or being upset

_____Tell clean, inoffensive jokes, and how to have fun in a social situation

_____Know how to play card games, board games, and sports; know how to dance

_____Deal with public embarrassment

_____Accept criticism and correction from a peer or someone in authority

_____Show personal courage by telling the truth

_____Express your opinion in a way that doesn’t demean or offend others

_____Obey the laws of your community and country, even when you could break them

_____Exercise your rights as a citizen: voting for the candidates of your choice (are you registered to vote?)

_____Participate in political forums, peaceful protests, or contacting your local, state and national government representatives on behalf of an issue about which you feel strongly

_____Volunteer to help your community or an organization to which you belong (e.g., your school, your religious organization, or a non-profit group)

_____Participate in community organizations on their board of directors

_____Run for a public office in your community, county, state, or nation

Parenting Skills

_____Understanding your child’s developmental stages and what behavior is appropriate at each stage

_____Understanding what are a person’s physical, emotional, mental, personal, and spiritual needs at each stage of life

_____Understanding what constitutes abuse, neglect, and abandonment in their different forms and making sure that you don’t do any of those things in your family

_____Know what to do to care for the needs of an infant (age 0-1)

_____Know what to do to care for the needs of a toddler (age 1-3)

_____Know what to do to care for the needs of a preschooler (age 3-5)

_____Know what to do to care for the needs of school aged child (age 6-10)

_____Knowing what to do to care for the needs of a pre-adolescent (age 11-12)

_____Knowing what to do to care for the needs of an adolescent (age 13-18)

_____Knowing what to do to care for the needs of a young adult (age 19 to 28)

_____Knowing what to do to care for the needs of a dependent or disabled adult

_____Knowing what to do to care for the needs of an elderly person

Employability Skills

_____Have job skills for which an employer would consider hiring you

_____Drive a car or know how to use public transportation to get to work

_____Know how to search for work

_____Develop a résumé and a cover letter

_____Wear appropriate clothing for the job you will be doing (e.g., business attire in an office, uniform in a medical setting, protective work clothes at a construction site, etc.)

_____Know how to answer questions in an interview

_____Arrive on time at the beginning of the day and from lunch and breaks (punctuality)

_____Work your entire shift as scheduled (reliability)

_____Give appropriate notice if you can’t come to work due to illness

_____Ask questions if you don’t understand what to do

_____Ask for work if you finished the assignment given to you

_____Do your job correctly, quickly, and with professionalism (responsibility)

_____Able to accept supervision and correction from a supervisor

_____Take good care of your customers so they will want to continue to patronize the company for which you work

_____Use persuasion to sell yourself, your ideas, the company’s products or services

_____Know how to ask for a raise or apply for a promotion

_____Know how to leave a company to take another job

_____Know how to give a speech or presentation to your co-workers

_____Know how to act as a representative or leader for your work group

_____Become involved on a committee or union activities at work

_____Supervise others in the company

_____Act as a manager within the company

_____Act as a professional consultant to a company

_____Doing strategic planning as part of upper management in the company

_____Running the company (e.g., CEO, Company President or Executive Officer)

Friendship/Intimacy Skills

_____Get to know someone: where they grew up, what they have experienced, what they like and dislike, what their values and goals are, and what they plan to do with their future

_____Help someone who needs your help

_____Listen to another person’s feelings and issues

_____Share your feelings with someone

_____Show liking and affection for someone in a non-sexual way

_____Ask for a date

_____Able to initiate romantic behavior and respond appropriately to the other person’s expressed limits and preferences

_____Make a commitment to a friend; be there for your friend when he or she needs you

_____Make a commitment to be faithful to a romantic partner, (e.g., going steady, engagement)

_____Proposing marriage

_____Keeping your marriage vows, remaining faithful to your partner and committed to your children

_____Able to support someone when they are in mourning, in pain, and when they are dying

Learning/Education Skills

_____Able to read to understand your assignments, to read the newspaper, and research areas of interest

_____Able to do math sufficient to solve problems in your class, to do what is required on the job, and for personal finances

_____Able to write clearly and appropriately for the audience with whom you wish to communicate; write personal and business letters, essays and poetry; write professionally for publication

_____Able to analyze and use intellectual problem-solving skills to solve problems in your class, on the job and in your personal life

_____Able to study to remember information for tests, for job-related tasks, and for personal interest

_____Able to take notes to facilitate study and research for school, work, or your avocation (e.g., an area of personal interest, a hobby)

_____Able to research for a school paper, a work-project, or for personal interest using a library, books, videos, and the Internet; know how to gather information on any topic that you need

_____Able to present your ideas to others graphically (charts or diagrams), orally (speech or lecture), visually (writing on a blackboard or showing a video), kinesthetically (showing them how to do something), using multi-media (computer presentation, e.g., in PowerPoint™ or Flash™), and lyrically (tell a story or read a poem)

_____Able to edit writing so it uses correct spelling, grammar, and punctuation

_____Able to organize your study time so you can do all that is assigned to you in time for your next class, so you can be ready for tests, project deadlines, and due dates

_____ Able to operate computers to do tasks using word processing, spreadsheet, database, presentation, graphics, e-mail and Internet applications

_____Able to teach others a subject you know very well

Life Planning Skills

_____Able to decide what is really important to you in life, set goals to achieve those dreams, and take effective action towards achieving them

_____Able to plan for classes you need to take to achieve your career goals

_____Able to plan for parties and other events you plan to host

_____Able to plan for a wedding

_____Able to develop a career plan detailing how you will advance in your career, what additional education you may need, and what companies you will target for employment, etc.

_____Able to plan for a vacation

_____Able to develop a comprehensive financial plan to address your goals for education, children, major purchases (e.g., house and car), risk or catastrophic events (e.g., insurance), vacation, and retirement

_____Able to develop contingency (backup) plans for when things don’t do as you had planned (e.g., you get laid off from the job, your partner leaves you, you get sick, you can’t find a job for a long period of time, etc.)

Self Management Skills

_____Able to care for your self during illness, control diet and lifestyle to maintain optimal health, and know how to exercise to remain fit

_____Able to keep your word, to do what you promise

_____Able to control your anger and restrain yourself from insulting, belittling, or bullying another, or engaging in violence; able to tolerate other’s taunting, insults, or teasing without resorting to violence against them

_____Able to forgive someone for a wrong they perpetrated against you; able to let go of your resentments, prejudice, and hatred for others

_____Able to grieve for a loss of someone or something important to you

_____Able to laugh when it is appropriate; to withhold laughter when it is not

_____Able to know what your values are, and stand up for them

_____Able to make a long term commitment, to a financial or legal contract, to a relationship, to an employer, to the military, or to the principles of your religious faith or ethical philosophy

_____Able to know yourself, and not make unrealistic expectations for what you can do or what you can achieve; able to know others well enough so you can make realistic expectations for their behavior and potential achievement

_____Able to set limits for others to let them know what is not acceptable behavior and language in your presence and in your home

_____Able to commit yourself to actualize your human and spiritual potential regardless of the obstacles you may face

_____Able to calm yourself when upset or relax when stressed

_____Able to contact your Higher Power through prayer and meditation

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